What qualifies me to make suggestions about turning one’s life around? Life experience. Been there.
When my husband walked out a few months before the facility I was working in was shut down and we all were laid off, I did the responsible thing: got a new job and added a 160-mile a day commute. Kind of like jumping from the frying pan into the fire, it turned out. After losing that job a year and a half later shortly after being left by my relocating fiance, I needed to take some time off to regroup. I went through an unsettled period of a few months, then worked my way across Wyoming on the Oregon Trail on a wagon train. That did the trick, and shortly thereafter I got a new decent job. That wagon train was a passion, an adventure, and was shared with some good and interesting new comrades. It was a healing experience that helped me be able to cope with life again — to regroup, relocate, and start a new job.
Several years later, I had a painful frozen shoulder, was laid off from my job, was going through the death-throes of a romantic relationship. and it seemed the people I was dealing with through these problems all were behaving so badly as to make a difficult situation even worse. My solution? Retreat. I moved off-the-grid to live with no power, no plumbing, no central heat, no refrigeration, in eastern Colorado. Oh, and then the outbuildings were burglarized repeatedly and rather than catch the guys (even when we knew who it was), the sheriff deputies just told me to carry a gun. Amidst all that, I found a measure of serenity. I gradually healed myself and my life, and eventually realized what it was that had allowed that to happen.
And that’s what I can give you some ideas to do. Not necessarily specifically how, because that’s specific to you….but what. to focus on. And I can tell you how I did it…what it was that worked for me.